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We want for you to fully understand what you get when you work with us, so take a peek into a few of our best tips for setting you up for the most amount of success on your wedding day! In the years of shooting weddings that have led up to today, we have learned so many lessons along the way. Our biggest goal is to share the knowledge that we've acquired so that we can help you to know things that you wouldn't have otherwise thought about! You deserve the wedding of your dreams and it is our goal to help you to make that happen.
Wedding Day Tips
First and foremost, I think that it all begins with your mindset and your expectations. I want to start out by telling you my BIGGEST piece of advice for you on your wedding day!
Ready for it?!
You'll do so much planning leading up to your day, and on your wedding day, you need to do one thing:
Stop.
Stop the planning. Stop the micro-managing. Know that all of the hard work that you put into planning needs to be enjoyed and do nothing but that: enjoy your day. Don't worry about time or details (we've got that handled) and just be present in every single moment. Your only job is to feel joy and excitement and every single emotion that you're meant to felt and have the time of your life.
Everything will be perfect.
Even if it isn't.
First Things First
The getting ready portion of the day is one where some of the most incredible moments can take place. Picture it: your'e anxiously awaiting seeing your honey with your closest family and friends. Maybe your parents are by your side as you put your dress on. Maybe your Grandfather is helping you with your tie. This is a moment that not only you, but your parents and other incredibly special people in your life have been waiting for for quite a long time.
Here are a few of my favorite tips for this time:
Pick a space that is spacious, cleanly decorated and well lit.
So often, the getting ready space can feel chaotic as there is lots of people and lots of things. Consider this as you're booking or selecting where you'll be getting ready. Sometimes people choose a hotel that is way more cramped once you fill it with hair and makeup and your entire wedding party, etc.
Getting Ready
The prep before you say I do is hugely important in setting the tone for the day and making sure that you're not worried about anything other than living in the moment and creating memories that you'll cherish for a lifetime.
I will direct you as much as necessary, but it's your job to feel the joy, nerves, excitement and everything in between.
Typcial shots that I want to gather from each couple are:
Final touches on hair and makeup.
Getting dressed.
Putting on final touches like jewelry, shoes, bowties, jackets, etc.
Keep in mind who you want to have in these photos and with you during these moments. Prioritize them and feel free to voice that you want to kick everyone out to avoid having these moments feel chaotic so that you can have a calm demeanor as you put the final touches on your getting ready look.
We Can't Document What Doesn't Happen
Your wedding day is an event to be lived.
It's not a staged production that we will direct.
We look out for moments that are emotion filled and this is where the most beautiful photographs and video take place. If you are drawn to emotional photographs and envision yourself in these moments, but you are so stressed or are spending most of your day micromanaging every little detail, we won't get the emotion that doesn't exist.
At the end of the day, you need to remember: your wedding isn't a stylize shoot.
Be present.
Feel the feelings.
Set your day up so that you're able to do this.
Your team of vendors that you decide to hire are so much more than just a group of people that work for you! They're the people that will quickly and effortlessly make the decision to do portraits early to avoid the downpour that's coming during the pre-assigned portrait session time to make sure you still get gorgeous outdoor portraits. They're the people that have a Tide pen handy so that when your maid of honor spills on her dress, the stain is gone before you even realize it's there. They're the people that will make sure to get a beautiful portrait of Grandma and Grandpa sneaking a kiss that you never knew happened but you'll cherish the photo forever. They're the people that will keep your groomsmen tame and on track before the ceremony.
Catch my drift?!
Truly, the team of vendors that you hire are the people that will allow you to fully be present on your day because they all feel like old friends and you have complete faith that they will handle absolutely anything that comes their way. And not only will they handle it, but they'll deal with it before you even know anything happened!
Your Vendor Team That You Hire Is So Much More Than People That Work For You...
Your photographer and videographer are the ones that are alongside you more than your spouse is on your wedding day. Isn't that crazy?! They're the ones that will see you nervous and excited, they'll be there when you first get into your wedding attire and realize "Holy smokes, this is actually happening" and they'll be next to you when your Dad sobs uncontrollably because he finally sees you as a bride/groom. They'll be by your side when you have butterflies so bad you feel like you might explode and they'll be next to you when you are dancing and singing and laughing until your cheeks hurt.
Your documentary team not only watches the day unfold, they are often the ones making the decisions like where to take portraits, finding the best light, deciding on the right time to leave the hotel, timing things out just so and making sure everything goes according to plan and yet also throwing the timeline out the window when the rain's coming and we need to get these portraits done before it starts!
The amount of trust that it takes to have a successful wedding day is a lot and that's why we really ensure that we develop a relationship from the get go!
We know the role that we take on during the planning process and on the actual wedding day which is why we strive so heavily to develop a relationship from the initial inquiry!
Develop A Relationship with Your Photographer and Hold on to the Ones That Initiate It
Let me say that again.
You will never have your village, the people that raised you and made you who you are, with you like you will on your wedding day.
Sometimes we forget the gravity of how incredible that is and it's not to be dismissed. All of the people that have helped mold and shape you both into the people that you are today like you will on your wedding day and that is something that you don't realize how special that is. You will be surrounded by people who endlessly love and support you as individuals and as a couple and that is something to be celebrated. Of course, the day is all about celebrating you marrying the love of your life, but it's also about both of you being surrounded by your entire village and I cannot tell you how overwhelmingly beautiful that is.
You Will Never Have Your Village With You Like You Will On Your Wedding Day
First Look vs. No First Look
I have so many thoughts about first looks vs. no first looks.
Let me just say, if you have had it in your mind from the very beginning that you want to see your partner at the end of the aisle, do that. This is such a personal decision and it's important that you go with your gut and do the thing that makes you the happiest.
Here are a few points for having a first look:
You are allowed an intimate moment to actually talk and kiss and cry and hold each other. When you see each other in front of a group of people at the ceremony, you really aren't allowed that opportunity to talk and say how you feel seeing each other.
Another point for a first look is that you are able to see your partner and hang out with them for longer on your wedding day! Your day goes so fast and having a first look allows you to spend a majority of your wedding day together.
I also think that sometimes when couples opt out of a first look, they feel like their day doesn't really start until everything is checked off of the list and then they can relax. When you have to cram all of your photos in between your ceremony and your reception, it leaves a majority of your day to feel like you still have a big to do list that you need to check off still. When you opt for a first look, you're able to get the checklist of portraits done so that you can relax and have the time of your life.
I think it's a common misconception that first looks seem less intimate, whereas I think the opposite. I love when couples choose a first look because it gives us a little more time for portraits and it gives the couple more time to be with their full wedding party and I love that!
Your wedding day timeline is a HUGE part of organizing your day! I love helping to create a rough draft for the layout of your day.
Here are a few things to consider when creating your timeline:
First Look vs. No First Look
Creating time in your day that allows for a bit of wiggle room in case things run late OR to account for rest time.
What all will you want documented: letter reading, garter toss, hair/makeup, details, etc.
Accounting for travel time. This is huge! If your ceremony and reception are in different spaces, you'll need to account for getting from point A to point B.
Will you do a formal exit and do you want your photographer to stay for that?
Will you do special things for each other or for your parents/wedding party before the ceremony like gifts, letter reading, private vow reading, etc.?
Consider videography and allow for a few extra minutes for set up. With videography, it requires a lot more setup and prep than photography does.
Will you be dismissing your guests after the ceremony? This takes tiiiiiiime.
Will you be wanting to join cocktail hour or just allow your guests to enjoy this time while you finish up photos?
Consider allowing a few extra minutes for reception documentation. A lot of times, the reception room isn't ready until later in the day, so allowing time for your photographer to document this room after it's ready but before guests enter is super important!
Wedding Day Timeline
Sample Timeline
1pm- Photographer/Videographer arrives +
begin documenting details
1:45pm- Final touches on getting ready
2pm- Bride/Groom gets dressed + ready
2:30pm- Spouse #2 gets dressed + ready
2:45pm- First Look
3pm- Wedding Party Portraits + Couple Portraits
4pm- Everyone hidden for ceremony
4:30pm- Ceremony
5pm- Family formals
5:30pm- Finalize portraits +
document reception space
6pm- Reception entrance
6:15pm- Speeches, prayer, toasts, etc.
6:30pm- Dinner
7:30pm- Formal dances
7:50pm- Cake Cutting
8:30pm- Golden hour portraits
9pm- Photographer/Videographer departs
1pm- Photographer/Videographer arrives +
begin documenting details
1:45pm- Final touches on getting ready
2:30pm- Spouse #1 gets dressed + ready
2:45pm- Spouse #1 + their party portraits
3:15pm- Spouse #2 gets dressed + ready
3:30pm- Spouse #2 + their party portraits
4pm- Everyone hidden for ceremony
4:30pm- Ceremony
5pm- Family formals
5:30pm- Full Wedding Party + Couple's Portraits
6pm- Reception entrance
6:15pm- Speeches, prayer, toasts, etc.
6:30pm- Dinner
7:30pm- Formal dances
7:50pm- Cake Cutting
8:30pm- Golden hour portraits
9pm- Photographer/Videographer departs
first look
no first look
Family Formals
Family formals time can often be one of the most stressful times of the day. Here are my best tips to make sure this time goes as smoothly as possible:
1. Keep it simple!
Make sure to only put the groups that mean the most to you on your family formals list. Typically, family formal list consists of parents, grandparents, siblings and siblings family (in-laws, nieces/nephews.)
2. Organize the list in a way that makes sense!
Have your family in a list, and then move onto your spouses family. Going back and forth creates confusion and takes a lot longer.
3. Keep the order in mind.
If you have elderly grandparents, little kids or family with disabilities, put them at the front of the list and get ALL photos with them done so that they can sit back down and get comfortable.
ie: Don't have a photo with Grandma at the beginning of the list and then have one big family photo at the very end so that they have to stay and wait until the very end.
4. Use first names.
Use specific names that I can yell out! Instead of saying things like: "Grandma" to leave your family wondering which grandma, put "Grandma Barb" or just Barb so that I can yell out the specific name.
5. Reception list.
To keep things simple for family formals, keep in mind, you can always have a reception list for more extended family or specific groups of friends that you want a photograph with at the reception.
Random Tips
Hold your first kiss.
Have your marriage certificate filled out before the ceremony so that all you have to do is sign it!
Have a friend designated to pin boutonnieres!
When walking down the aisle, have all friends with bouquets make sure to hold their bouquet at their belly button. Look up and smile! And walk slooooooow.
Really think about the things that are the most important to photographers when dreaming about locations: light and space. Don't book a hotel just to have a hotel to get ready in and then your hotel room ends up being cramped and dark with thick, patterned curtains.
Trust your spray tanner!
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